Perspective is everything.
It is the difference between going through an ordeal or an adventure.
Chester Bennington from Linkin Park
Do you know what the person you are fighting is thinking?
In your next conflict, ask yourself what the other person thinks, feels and why. Rather than react to what you see and feel, speak to what he or she thinks and feels. See if you get a different result.
Hugh is working to get his driver license. He had an unfortunate first driving experience with the guy that was assigned to him. So it was evident we needed to change driving instructors.
While he was waiting for the new instructor to pull up to get him yesterday, he was expressing nervous and anxious thoughts to me. I was thinking to myself how I was going to handle this? I had it mapped in my mind that I would go out and meet this new instructor and tell him what had happened and express my concerns as his mother. Map out what had been negative so it would not happen again.
Suddenly, I said to Hugh, “How would Joan handle this?”
Joan was a lifelong mentor and grandmother figure to Hugh who was the absolute kindest and loving person we had ever known. She passed last year. If there seemed to be an enemy for her, she would love them up, bake for them, etc. She saw everyone as God’s child.
“Well, she would go into the house now and bring him cookies!”
The biggest smile broke out on Hugh’s face and so I went into the house, took some Oreos and bagged them. When the driver arrived, we greeted him with cookies! No negative talk or anticipation.
The man had trouble finding us, so the cookies lightened him up. He told me about his past service in this country and we thanked him for his service. Hugh had the best driving experience and I have a very fulfilling day.
Thank you, Joan! Always combat negativity with the opposite. Love it up. That was Joan. That’s love.